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नई मां ( Hindi Poetry)

For the longest I had wanted to talk about body shaming not by men but by our very own girlfriends, female acquaintances. I have been a subject to it and I’m sure you have too! From 48 kgs to 72 kgs (pregnancy) to suddenly shedding weight few months after delivery, I have seen it all in just 5 yrs!

Here is an attempt to talk about what a new mom doesn’t want to hear from her friends who seldom show up and from acquaintances who have perhaps never met in person. We are blessed with beautiful voices and languages, let’s put our words to uplift others❣️❣️❣️

आई जीवन में एक नन्ही सी जान
सोचा एक नया अस्तित्व मिला
मिला मां बनने का सम्मान,
पर अस्तित्व मिला नहीं धुंदली हो गई उसकी अपनी पहचान

एक औरत ही औरत की पीढ़ा समझती है
क्या सच मे समझती है
और समझ के भी उसके ज़ख्मों को कुरेदती है?

अरे ये तो कुछ नहीं आगे देखो क्या होता है कमाल
हमने कैसे तीन बच्चे पाले, तुम तो हो एक ही में बेहाल।
कितनी अच्छी दिखती थी, मोटापे से हो गई हो बेडौल
बच्चा देखो कितना दुबला है, तुम खुद ही हुए जा रही हो ढोल।

रोती चीखें और किलकारियां
नया बच्चा अपने साथ लाता है नई जिम्मेदारियां
जानते हैं सब, मानते भी है सब
फिर भी होते है हैरान सब,
क्योकि बदन दर्द, थकान, अवसाद नहीं हैं कोई बीमारियां।

अवसाद से परेशान नई मां को भी पता नहीं
कि है वो किस की शिकार,
उसकी ही सहेलियां, पड़ोसी आंटीया प्यार से कहती हैं
कि वो हो रही है बेकार।

झाइयां, झुर्रियां, मोटापा कमजोरी
दुबली है, तो कुछ खाती क्यों नहीं?
मोटी है तो कुछ करती क्यों नहीं?
थिन है तो थिन शेमइंग
फैट है तो फैट शेमइंग।

औरत ही औरत को हीन भाव दिलाती है,
सहयोगी हो कर भी हीनता के घूंट पिलाती है।
अगर खुदके लिए सजे तो स्वार्थी हो जाती है,
तभी शायद दोस्तों को जलाने के लिए तैयार होती है।

 

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Homeopathy for Children

For most people Homeopathy is a mystery and new parents who are already worried about their kids frequently falling sick are afraid to try something that is not well tried or popular, parents have reservations when it comes to giving frequent allopathic medicines to their little ones, but they give in as that’s the only resort for them .

Here in this article, we talk to Dr. Sonia, a Homeopath and also a mom to a 3 year old. Dr. Sonia talks about Homeopathy and how it works for kids.

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The “Firsts” of Motherhood

It was for months we waited for the second pink line that marks so many firsts, and when it happened we were jumping with joy.

The memory of the day I first saw that faint second line is vivid in my mind and like other first-time moms I too have saved the kit for keepsakes. Nervous and excited I went to the doctor’s clinic, and from there began a series of joyful memories.

Motherhood opens the gateway to many unforgettable firsts; time flies in the blink of an eye and in wonder we look for the tiny squish that we held in our arms the very first day.

Want to know what I said when I first saw him?

“Ohh my God- he has so much hair”. Well, I was groggy from the induced pain, several hours of labour and was too exhausted to feel any emotions and those were the exact words I said, because he actually was a very hairy baby. It looks like yesterday that he was put on my chest for the first feed and how like a pro he suckled.

From the colostrum to the meconium (first baby poop), from the first bath to massage to the very first outing everything is fondly etched in our memories.

The products that we carefully selected for our to be born baby were well researched, we got the best we could. One of the things that I did not have then was Mother Sparsh Water-wipes. Sometimes the rashes on the delicate baby skin can get worse with the highly fragranced wipes we use, but being Water based the Mother Sparsh wipes are pure and do no harm. They give you convenience of cleaning without having to prepare cloth and sterilised water solution. Another good thing about these is that they are bio-degradable unlike most of the wipes available in the market. I recently happened to try these water wipes and I love how soft they feel. You can check the detailed product review here.

No matter how much you prepare, you can never be prepared enough for motherhood, I clearly recall the first time we took our son to the doctor and how complicated holding a baby looked to me. I was uncomfortable, but as he has grown, so have I as a parent.

Out of all his firsts, his words have been the most precious ones, and I have compiled his first words in this blog post.

The first movements in the womb to the milestones in first two years, to going to school is all so precious.

Sharing here some lines that I wrote for my son on his second birthday-

” You are a part of me yet you are not me,

You came through me yet you will carve your own destiny.

 Not too long before, you were me;

we were one, our hearts beat together creating a beautiful symphony.

 You are a part of me, but no, you are not me.

You are “YOU” a little boy, trying to learn, explore and understand the world around. when you crack a joke and laugh (you just turned 2), I know you are going to keep me laughing all through!

You have a style of your own, but like your dad you want things perfectly done.

When you wave at people, smile and extend your hand, I know you are growing up as a friendly being, and then there are times you hide behind me telling me that you are still my little boy.

 When you demand for a certain song to be played and dance to its tunes or run to see an aeroplane or a Truck, I see you grow as a discerning individual, in love with sounds, music and everything fun, but then the pressure-cooker whistles and you run to me for a hug ( saying mumma hug, mumma hug) telling me you are still my little boy, still afraid of the noises too loud.

Let me hug you a little longer, let me kiss you one more time, for sooner than I know my child, you’ll be all set to take on the world!!

 From cradle and rocker to gyro-swing-car and the four wheel rides to moving to his first tri-cycle, the transition talks a lot about our lives in this fast forward mode. I am sure all parents would agree on this.

Hold them, hug them and give them the best you can.

This post is sponsored by Mother Sparsh India’s First water- wipes. #firsttimemom #firsttimewaterwipes

“First time experience with first-time water wipes. “

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How to select a playschool or Pre-school- Quick Guide For Parents


Why would you write a post on selecting a school, someone asked me. Well that someone has kids who are my age and that someone doesn’t know the challenges that we face. 

 

Being an army kid, my parents had to move cities every 2-3 years, which meant changing schools that often. Was it difficult? Well no, it was rather like a cake walk, easier for them than for me. Fewer schools, even fewer boards and our safest bet was a KV(Kendriya Vidyalaya) or an Army School. Things have changed drastically and choosing a school is as crucial and as confusing as making a career choice. 

 

Before move further, let us first know what exactly a play school is? A playschool as you may have guessed, is an informal set-up where a child learns through play. Pre-school is a term often interchangeably used with playschool. However, preschool is from 3 years to 5 years before a child starts his formal education at 6 years of age. A play school can start as early as 1.5years of age. 

 

Parents are flustered just by the thought of leaving their tiny baby in a play school or Pre-school, all by herself. They are confronted by many fears.  Here are a few things that you may look at before finalising a play school or a Pre-school for your child.

 

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Trending Baby names

“Call him Voldemort, Harry. Always use proper names for things. Fear of a name increases fear of the thing itself.”
– J.K. Rowling, HP
That’s the power of names!
Well, I have a few interesting stories about names. My husband’s name is Parul and in India Parul is a name for girls. My mother-in-law often narrated the story behind his name, how an influential friend visited them when he was born and suggested this name. It wasn’t until he went to school that they realized, there were many girls called Parul and he was the only boy with that name.
The first thing that I asked on meeting him for the first time was about his name. Anyway, now it doesn’t matter, only once in a while people call me Parul ma’am or Ms. Parul and I have to correct them, saying that I am Rashmi and Parul is my husbandIn todays virtual world impressions are created by name and pictures that one puts up on social media. A lot of the times our name becomes our first introduction, much before we have even had a real meeting. It is therefore necessary that we give much thought to the names that we choose for our kids. Also choosing wisely becomes important as the name that we give to our kids talks about us. I am sure one doesn’t want to appear frivolous or old fashioned by giving a meaningless or common name to their child.

I have a close friend called “Pupul”, in college she instantly became famous because of her cute sounding unique name, when rest of us had common names like Neha, Rashmi, Pallavi, Priyanka “a Pupul” did stand out! She totally despises her parents for that name, however, I have high regards for them for choosing such a different, meaningful name way back then.
Choosing the right name is mostly one of the most difficult and baffling tasks that confronts the new or to be parents. Esp. in countries like India where the gender remains a surprise till the end. Name is one thing that remains with you forever unless you hate your name so much that you decide to get it changed.
I had started looking for baby names and preparing a list just when I struck my 3rd trimester. However, it took my husband less than a few minutes to zero down on the name for our boy, because the exhaustive list that I had prepared for over 3 months had all baby girls’ names and only a few boy names which made our job easier.
Here I have compiled a list of baby names for boys and girls that I found new, unique and sweet sounding; well that’s my criteria for choosing a name. i have a list of trending names for boys and gi

Name for baby boys

A 
Aabaan- Angel
Aadhir- Moon
Aamil- Doer
Anamaya Name of lord shiva
Araditya/Arayadit noble conqueror
Arain — godly person
Anadya- lord Krishna
Ashkaan- A dynasty Persian King
Avyukt lord Krishna 
E
Eeshayu- Full of strength
Emad- Confidence
Erman-  Friend of God in Arabic
I
Idhant- Luminous
Ikshit- Desired
Ishaar- God
L
Lakshin- Auspicious
Lavit- Lord Shiva
Lohitaksh- lord Vishnu 
M
Mahin- Earth 
N
Naahush- An ancient King
Nehaan- Affectionate
Nihaansh- Beautiful
Nabhya- Lord Shiva
Nirmay- Without blemish
Nirek- Superior
Nevaan means holy 
O
Orion- Son of fire
P
Prayan- Supreme intelligent
Pranit- Modest
Pratyaksh- Ostensible/ Obvious
R
Rishaan – Lord Shiva
Rishit- The best
Rovin- Pleasure
Ridhaan- Searcher or seeker
Ruhaan- spiritual
S
Saadik- Trustworthy
Saahir- Wakeful
Saamedh- full of strength
Shaakyaa:- Buddhhaa 
Satvat:- Lord Krishna
T
Tarush- Plant/ tree
Trishaan- A king of Surya dynasty
V
Vyaan- Air
Y
Yoram- King (Hebrew)
Yrishi- Surprising
Yogine- Saint, another name for lord Hanuman
Yuvaan Youthful
Yashmit- Famous
Yushaan- Mountain
Z
Zane- Gift from God (Hebrew name)
Ziaan- Peace
Zehaan- Brightness
Here i have a list of trending na

Name for baby girls

A
Aaraa:lightAashika/aashiqa blessing/mercury/beloved
Araina/ Arahana- Peace/holy
Adhira- Moon
Aishani- Goddess Durga
Aikam- Unity/oneness
Aadrika Mountain
Aashvi- Victorious
Amaaraa-Immortal
Anouk:- Grace
Amishta- limitless/eternal
D
Divijaa- Born in heaven, heavenly
Deetya- Answer to prayers
Dwishaa- Direction or disha
Dhruti- Valiant/ motion/movement
E
Edhaa- Sacred
Ekishaa- One Goddess
J
Jiyana -Strength
Jenisha- Dispeller of ignorance
Jainaa- Good character 
K
Kamikaa- Desired
Karnikaa- Heart of lotus
Kavika- Poetess
Keemaya- Divine
Kenisha- Beautiful life
Keya- Flower
Kaashi- Holy city of Varanasi
Krishyaa- Krishna /Shiva
M
Mahiraa – Expert, skilful 
Miraya mira, Krishna’s devotee
Mihiraa- Feminine of Sun
Manyaa- Honourable
N
Nayasa Affable, new beginning
Nirvi — bliss
P
Pariha – A land of fairies
Paanvi- God, Festival
Parashvi- A touchstone that turns iron into gold
S
Sahiti- literature
Samrata – Wealthy, blessed
Sashmita- Ever smiling
Saraa- Pure
Saarya- Pious woman
Saanvi- Goddess Lakshmi
Sehaj -comfort
Sauraa celestial
Seerat- Innate nature/ Quality
Shaarvina Goddess durga
R
Reha — star in Arabic
Rheaa- a good hearted person
Ruhaani- Soulful
Rayaa- Flow
T
Teesta- A river
Thea:-light in Greek
Tvesha bright
Twishaa- Bright
Tushita- Satisfied
Tishyaa Auspicious fire
Trisha-Thirst
Twarita- Goddess Durga
V
Vaayaala- Time
Viyaa/Vihaa- Heaven
Varalika goddess durga
Z
Zeniaa- Welcoming
Zihvaah- God
Ziaah- Enlightened
Zuhaa- The morning star
While deciding a name we must also consider the pronunciation, an easy to pronounce name has less scope of being spoilt or tweaked by mispronunciation and fewer chances of being understood as something else.
In today’s world while we would like our child to have a name close to our roots we must also keep in mind that the child will grow up and go places, so the name that we give must be simple to understand by people of other nationalities too.