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How I weaned my 3 year old

It’s over!!

A late post- Late because for many days I wasn’t sure if it was over.

I thought I would give in and like always we’d start all over again; but it didn’t happen. He kept coming back to me, pleading, asking if I was okay and if I could offer him his favourite aadudu( his word for breast/breastmilk)

It broke my heart each time, but I denied because it was getting tough for me to continue our breastfeeding journey, tougher than it was to control myself from starting again, giving in to those yearning eyes.
29th January 2019 was the last day he nursed, Just when he completed 34 months of breastfeeding.

I started conditioning him long back (can’t recall) but it’s been many months. He would talk to aadudu, sing songs and say things like “I’m so happy to see aadudu”, “ye mera aadudu hai”, “I love you aadudu”.

I asked him that soon aadudu will stop as he was growing up and that he must thank aadudu for nurturing him, for making him a strong and big boy from a tiny, feeble baby that he was. He would say “aadudu thank You, aapne mujhe chhotu baby se big boy banaya”. On asking “baby when will you stop having aadudu”? He would promptly reply- “Tomorrow”, a tomorrow that never came! A tomorrow that came months later!
I have a heavy heart as I write this, but I know I did my best.

We ‘ve come a long way and we loved our nursing sessions, despite the occasional bouts of frustrations because sometimes you feel that that’s the only thing you do through the day, sometimes the back does ache from being in a certain position for long.
Weaning needs a lot of strength and determination and that is why it took me so long. I just did not have the heart to do it. With cracked nipples and toddler reaching 3, I realised that it was the best time to do it. 

Sharing my weaning journey and few tips for moms who are nursing older toddlers or older kids.

How I weaned my 34 months old child from breastmilk?

There is nothing that will help as much as talking to your child will. At almost 3 yrs I could easily to talk things out to him, he however had difficulty falling asleep without nursing.

He knew he was a big boy with teeth, a big boy who could chew on to yummy food and didn’t need breastmilk, but somehow wasn’t ready. Finally I resorted to putting band-aid on my sore nipples and told him I was hurt.

This continued for weeks and he stopped asking for it. Some stories, lots of cuddles helped us get through this phase. 

Weaning is easier with spouse and family support. 
Here are a few things you can do to make it easy for you and your child.
 
Distract- When you know your child is going to ask for it, just distract. For example, it is her naptime and you know she needs it for her naps; distract by reading a story/ singing to her and rock her to sleep. I know of some parents, who would take their child on drives and make him fall  asleep in the car. some took for stroller rides, some carried their kids in the Carrier and made them sleep. 
 
Once the day feeds have reduced, it is not so difficult to distract them.
Take a break -I know of someone who took a 4 days break and traveled with friends only so that her son could get off the breasts. 
 
Ask your husband or other family member to help-
Spouse can be the best support. Let him take over the bed time duties till the child has weaned. 
 
You can start some new bedtime rituals while you are still nursing so that your bub feels normal and the transition is smooth. 
 
few things to ensure-
 
See that the change is gradual, to help both -You and the baby. Your breasts should have reduced the supply when you plan to completely stop nursing. You don’t want to end up with plugged painful ducts. If you face engorgement use heating pads to comfort yourself. 
 
Take it slow and easy. 
 

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Top 5 Wipes in India for sensitive skin

Motherhood introduces us to many things new; you may have known wet-wipes, used them as well, but only once you are a mom would you know how indispensable wipes are for your early motherhood days when your baby is on nurse- burp-poop-sleep-repeat mode.

The gentle, sensitive skin of our babies deserves something that is as soft and pure as they are.

If you are looking for wet wipes for the sensitive skin of your baby, I have curated a comprehensive list of best wipes in India for sensitive skin.

Mothersparsh

I prefer Mothersparsh wipes because of many reasons, the first one being their biodegradablity. These super thick wipes are made from plant and the fabric is medical grade. These unscented water wipes are perfect for Hand & Mouth Cleaning. Containing aloe vera extracts and Vitamin E that soothes the delicate skin of your baby. These are first Indian water- wipes, being 99% water they prevent diaper rashes and that makes them suitable even for new born babies and for babies with skin complications. The wipes are thickest ever wipes that I have used.

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Challenges and perks of being a sailor’s wife

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Being married to a sailor is like being in a long distance relationship for most of your life. I would be lying if I say it’s easy. 

When I meet new people they have several questions; surprised/shocked at how our life functions. I get to hear things like – why did you choose to marry a sailor? It must be so difficult for you and other such questions that make me feel like I am from a different tribe altogether! 

It is difficult and there is no denying that, but then no one said life would be easy!! 

Way back in 80s n 90s sailors could only communicate through written letters and telegrams. Letters that would take months to reach their destination. When we started our relationship we were technologically blessed for the ship had  internet access, though very limited and that too only on the computers onboard. We exchanged Emails daily, the calls were brief as those were through satellite lines and costed somewhere like 1$ a minute)

Times have changed and we are in a much better place now with Ships having their own Wi-Fi set up. We are now able to talk/ video call multiple times everyday. 
Connectivity may have improved but other challenges do remain. 

Challenges like not getting time to spend with spouse, having to manage everything on our own-single handedly. If that wasn’t enough, solo parenting your child most of your life tops the list of all the difficulties. From researching about baby stuff to schools, admissions to PTMs to planning school pick-up and drops, outings, birthdays all by oneself is just a glimpse of a few of the many things that we deal with. 

The sign-off time approaches, there is love in the air, but hold on, all is not as good as it looks, this may not be a serious challenge, but it definitely is a challenge to get your home spick and span, shining bright, for your sailorman is not coming home, he is coming to stay in a 5star hotel and can prove to be a HWEC (handle with EXTREME care )guest, that’s a hotelier in me speaking!! I will not generalise things, but being a part of this fraternity, my interactions with shippies and their wives have reaffirmed this belief( there can always be exceptions though) 

You streamline your daily schedule, you prioritise things and when your man is home all starts to revolve around him, the routine that you set just fizzles out. You thought your man would be home, two extra hands to help, but hey, he is on a holiday, isn’t he and that also means he needs sumptuous meals like those cooked on-board by his seasoned and revered Chief Cook! 

Other thing that I despise about this life is not having him around festivals and important life events. However well you plan the joining and sign-off, you are bound to miss something or the else. In these 7 years of marriage, we’ve been able to celebrate only 2 Diwalis and 3 birthdays together. 

No matter how long you ‘ve  been into a relationship or sailed; joining gives the same jitters and sign off the same joy. 

While the challenges are aplenty there are perks that you wouldn’t want to trade off with anything.

The shippies are the most hands on guys, mine is, and being married into a family where half the men are sailors I can say this for a larger population. They can be a one man army when it comes to repairs and maintenance jobs at home. 

Your sailor man will love to make his life large and will treat you at the best of the places and with the best of the things; after all you are his Queen quite literally!  They work hard, really hard ( I have sailed and I know how difficult their job is) and when they are with their family they want the best of everything for themselves and for others close to them. 
If your man is anyone like mine then I am sure you already have a huge collection of Prada, Burberry and Versace of the world and expensive toiletries. A lot of the times these things will make an entry  in your wardrobes/bathrooms much before they are launched here in India.

Luxuries of life do come at a cost and perhaps we are all paying for it in some or the other way. Those on top of the ladder in corporate jobs or running their own businesses struggle to find time for their family. 9-6 is never 9-6 for them, by the time they are home the kids are already off to bed. However, with sailors, when they are home, they are home 24/7, no running late for office, no late working hours! 

If you love traveling and if you are lucky, you can get to join your spouse on-board, experience this unique life at sea and travel far and wide!

The best perk is that the spark of love neither dies nor flickers; after all, this distance keeps our hearts growing fonder with each passing year; as a couple we come to value eachother’s presence more.

Life is like a big party when he is home as we try to make the most of our times together.

So, count your blessings and when life gives you lemons- make yourself some Kamikaze, Martinis, Mojitos or simply gulp down your Tequilla shots; just don’t forget to use your duty free booze ;)!!! 

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Babycare Product Range by “Morisons Baby dreams” -Review

Babies occupy our hearts, thoughts and also the whole house. It wouldn’t be an exaggeration if I said that all across my house there is at least one thing more that was not there Pre-baby. Childbirth comes with a plethora of things, they grow up fast and every stage has unique requirements.  From breastfeeding, baby care products to feeding dishes; as parents we want to provide the best to our babies.
I came across Morisons Baby Dreams which is a baby care brand from the house of J L Morison, serving moms-to-be and new moms for over 30 years now.
JL Morison launched “Morisons Baby Dreams” which is their online shop designed keeping in mind the needs of today’s mom.
Morisons Baby Dreams has a wide range of products that includes feeding, hygiene, sippers, teethers, toys, apparel, bedding, baby gears and many other baby related products that you can think of. Every single product conforms to highest quality standards. Apart from their own website, their products are available on amazon and Firstcry too.
I had an opportunity to try some of their products and I am pleased with the quality and pricing.

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What’s in my diaper bag??

My first introduction to The Diaper Bag, “new mom’s most useful companion when out” happened when I was 39 weeks pregnant preparing to pop. That’s when I ordered a “Pink” coloured diaper bag (please don’t ask me why), it was a disappointment and I barely used it.

Back then my only criteria was a pretty looking, spacious bag with many pockets and separators.

However, the bag that I use now is a back pack that we recieved with our duty-free perfume shopping. It is a lovely silver/grey coloured bag, with one pocket inside and one on the outside.

I have a thin body frame with narrow shoulders, carrying handbags is never too comfortable for me. Also with a baby I prefer my hands to be as free as possible. So,  babywearing and a backpack make going out super smooth for me.

Below is the list of items that you will always find in my diaper bag.
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