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letter to my son (Women’s Day Special)

Dear beta,

This is my first letter to you after your birth ( i wrote many letters, read emails to you during the 9 months before your birth, I am sure you have read them all by now)

As I write this letter, you are sleeping next to me, holding me tight and you leave me pondering how time is slipping off my hands. It looks like yesterday that you came into our lives to complete our world and make it a better place for us.

It’s that time of the year when restaurants are offering discounts for ladies and there are plenty of events being organised to celebrate the spirit of womanhood (it is the year 2018), you would wonder why? It is because people have chosen one day to promote equal rights including the “right to vote” for women; while in most nations, women may have got the right to vote, “equality” still looks like a distant dream. I hope it is not the case when you get to read this e-mail.

Everything great starts from home and so does gender equality, also before talking about independence, equality, empowerment and other big jargons, it is important to stop stereotyping women, men, or anybody as- strong, sacrificing, caring, giving, or as emotionally/physically weak or whatever. We are all individuals, each with unique characteristics.
I do not have any staunch ideals to follow, all I want is to pass on values that I have based my life on, some of which are-

Compassion and respect- There is this perpetual rat race to prove oneself better or to belittle the other; the world needs more compassion, it needs humans who are humans, people who value one another.
I have always held Respect over Love and I strongly believe that in a relationship if there is no respect the love eventually dies. Elder or younger, respect people around you.

Looking at the larger picture- Whatever tasks, big or small you shoulder, try looking at the bigger picture, the effect it will have in a longer run on others and on our environment. And do remember there is no job too small!

Lastly, “be yourself” – the last thing in my life would be to have you become like someone else. Never change yourself to please others. Do not behave like a boy or like a girl, behave like you would as a human being.

It is infuriating to hear people say “why are you crying like a girl”, or “that girl fights like a boy”, or “be a man”. Do not give in to these stereotypes.

I only hope I am able to raise you well, to raise you as “you” and not as a boy or girl. I hope I am able to help you bring out the best of you.
I hope I raise you as a confident, compassionate human being, that’s all I want my dear child.

Lots of love
Mumma

This blog post is a part of #Womensdayblogparty . I’d like to thank my fellow blogger friend Deepika for introducing me. Read her interesting post for this blog party here

Also do go to my friend Latika’s blog post here to read her perspective on the topic.

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    Priya

    March 5, 2018

    This is a lovely write up. I am sure he will grow up to be a fine gentleman.

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      Rashmi

      March 6, 2018

      thanks Priya.. I hope so too. 🙂

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      Rashmi

      March 6, 2018

      Thanks Priya.. I hope so too.. 🙂

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    Misha jain

    March 5, 2018

    Lovely Lovely Lovely… I am sure he is going to be a very amazing human in future. Keep it going Mommy

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      Rashmi

      March 6, 2018

      Thanks Misha.. glad you liked this letter.

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    Anshu Bhojnagarwala

    March 5, 2018

    Splendid! When he gets such a great upbringing, why wouldn’t he turn out to be compassionate and a wonderful human being!

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      Rashmi

      March 6, 2018

      thanks Anshu.. I really hope that he imbibes some of the values..

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      Rashmi

      March 6, 2018

      Thanks Anshu… 🙂

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    Sagarika

    March 5, 2018

    wow…what a letter.. Don’t be a boy or a girl…be you.. kudos Mamma for being such a powerful parent

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      Rashmi

      March 6, 2018

      hey thanks sagarika.. glad that u liked the letter.

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      Rashmi

      March 6, 2018

      thanks Sagarika.. glad you liked it.

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