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Diwali Activities for Kids

The best time of the year is here, the air is filled with joy and fragrance of approaching winter. Markets are glittering and homes shining.

Diwali will soon be here and so will the  kids be home for Diwali break, while we are busy preparing for the festivities, keeping kids engaged and taking it as an opportunity to teach them about the festival is important.

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How I weaned my 3 year old

It’s over!!

A late post- Late because for many days I wasn’t sure if it was over.

I thought I would give in and like always we’d start all over again; but it didn’t happen. He kept coming back to me, pleading, asking if I was okay and if I could offer him his favourite aadudu( his word for breast/breastmilk)

It broke my heart each time, but I denied because it was getting tough for me to continue our breastfeeding journey, tougher than it was to control myself from starting again, giving in to those yearning eyes.
29th January 2019 was the last day he nursed, Just when he completed 34 months of breastfeeding.

I started conditioning him long back (can’t recall) but it’s been many months. He would talk to aadudu, sing songs and say things like “I’m so happy to see aadudu”, “ye mera aadudu hai”, “I love you aadudu”.

I asked him that soon aadudu will stop as he was growing up and that he must thank aadudu for nurturing him, for making him a strong and big boy from a tiny, feeble baby that he was. He would say “aadudu thank You, aapne mujhe chhotu baby se big boy banaya”. On asking “baby when will you stop having aadudu”? He would promptly reply- “Tomorrow”, a tomorrow that never came! A tomorrow that came months later!
I have a heavy heart as I write this, but I know I did my best.

We ‘ve come a long way and we loved our nursing sessions, despite the occasional bouts of frustrations because sometimes you feel that that’s the only thing you do through the day, sometimes the back does ache from being in a certain position for long.
Weaning needs a lot of strength and determination and that is why it took me so long. I just did not have the heart to do it. With cracked nipples and toddler reaching 3, I realised that it was the best time to do it. 

Sharing my weaning journey and few tips for moms who are nursing older toddlers or older kids.

How I weaned my 34 months old child from breastmilk?

There is nothing that will help as much as talking to your child will. At almost 3 yrs I could easily to talk things out to him, he however had difficulty falling asleep without nursing.

He knew he was a big boy with teeth, a big boy who could chew on to yummy food and didn’t need breastmilk, but somehow wasn’t ready. Finally I resorted to putting band-aid on my sore nipples and told him I was hurt.

This continued for weeks and he stopped asking for it. Some stories, lots of cuddles helped us get through this phase. 

Weaning is easier with spouse and family support. 
Here are a few things you can do to make it easy for you and your child.
 
Distract- When you know your child is going to ask for it, just distract. For example, it is her naptime and you know she needs it for her naps; distract by reading a story/ singing to her and rock her to sleep. I know of some parents, who would take their child on drives and make him fall  asleep in the car. some took for stroller rides, some carried their kids in the Carrier and made them sleep. 
 
Once the day feeds have reduced, it is not so difficult to distract them.
Take a break -I know of someone who took a 4 days break and traveled with friends only so that her son could get off the breasts. 
 
Ask your husband or other family member to help-
Spouse can be the best support. Let him take over the bed time duties till the child has weaned. 
 
You can start some new bedtime rituals while you are still nursing so that your bub feels normal and the transition is smooth. 
 
few things to ensure-
 
See that the change is gradual, to help both -You and the baby. Your breasts should have reduced the supply when you plan to completely stop nursing. You don’t want to end up with plugged painful ducts. If you face engorgement use heating pads to comfort yourself. 
 
Take it slow and easy. 
 

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Not An Extra-marital affair

Met on a common whatsapp group, they started sharing personal messages, they felt connected as they shared common hobbies.

The butterflies fluttered every time the phone notified of a new message. The teenage feel back in early forties was such a refreshing change for both. Continue Reading

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Menstrual Cups- An Introduction

I bleed each month to help make humankind a possibility. My womb is home to the divine. A source of life for our species. Whether I choose to create or not. But very few times it is seen that way… We menstruate and they see it as dirty. Attention seeking. Sick. A burden. As if this process is less natural than breathing. As if it is not a bridge between this universe and the last. As if this process is not love. Labour. Life. Selfless and strikingly beautiful.”
– Rupi Kaur
Well, this post is not about breaking the Period taboo, however each time we bring this topic up and talk openly about it, it in a way does make us feel more empowered, it does make Periods and period talks Normal.
And the best thing that happened to my Periods in these past 24 years is Menstrual cup!
Most of you will know that I have clothdiapered my son and as a CDing parent and as someone who looks for alternative sustainable solutions to almost everything around, I had to give a try to Menstrual Cup.Those of you who don’t know much about  cups would  question the need to use a cup when there are several good quality pads and tampons available.

The pads may be good absorbents, but they are not eco-friendly, no matter what these brands claim, the pads do stink more often than you would want, and sometimes they leak too. Menstrual cups to me have meant freedom, it makes me feel like I’m not on my periods, wish there was a magic potion for PMS and the pain that periods bring.
Bringing here answers to some of the frequently asked questions about menstrual cups-
  • What material are these made up of and how are these eco-friendly?

These are made up of Medical grade silicone. The average user throws away an astonishing 125 to 150kg of tampons, pads and applicators in their lifetime. Silicone made menstrual cups are eco-friendly because they last 1-5 years. Imagine the number of pads you will add up to the land-fill in all these years. Hence, in comparison to disposable sanitary pads these are way better. In fact, silicone is a greener substitute to plastic as it is derived from silica that over few years goes back to it’s natural form.

  • Is inserting a cup easy?

Easy or difficult differs from user to user, some get it right the first time, some need to try a few times. There are many ways  to insert a cup, The most popular ways to do it are-   C fold & Punch Down method.  C-fold- Take your cup, fold it in half so that the lips touch together, then slowly bend the cup in half again lengthwise. You will see that the point of insertion looks like a C (or U). The other popular method is Punch down- Hold your menstrual cup. Use your thumb to push the lip of the cup down towards the base of the cup. Then remove your thumb as you squeeze the edges together.

  • Does it not hurt?

Not really, it may be slightly uncomfortable initially, but it should not hurt.

  • Are there chances of infection?

No, not at all. The blood remains inside the body, so there is no chance of contamination unlike it is in case of pads.

  • How often does one need to empty it?

Since each woman has different flow pattern on different days, you may have to check every few hours in the beginning to understand your pattern. Say in every 2 hours when you begin.

  • Does it not leak?

If inserted well, it will not leak.

  • How do I clean the cup?

Cleaning is very simple, during your cycle you just need to wash it each time you empty the cup, once the cycle is over to you should cleanse it in hot water (to sterlise it). Dry it and keep it in an airy place. It is advised to sterlise it before and after your monthly cycle.

  • What are the things I should follow to maintain hygiene while using the cup?

Using clean cup and washing it under running water whenever emptying it is important. Another thing to take care of is that your nails should be short and hands clean.

  • What are the various brands available?

There are several brands available in India now,  to name a few-          Sirona, Boondh, Rustic Art, Stonesoup And SheCup to name a few.

Hope this has motivated you to give cups a try! Do connect if you have any questions.

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मां

तुम ना होकर भी तुम जैसी हूं मैं मां।
स्वयं को तुम्हारा प्रतिबिंब पाती हूं मैं मां।

तुम में है आकाश सी स्पष्टता व सागर की विशालता,
सागर तो नहीं,

पर किनारे आती लहरों सम चंचल खुद को पाती हूं मै मां।

समय सी अथक आगे बढ़ती हो मां,
फूलों की महक और सौम्यता बिखेरती हो मां।
मां से दादी नानी मां बनकर भी
बिना थके, निस्वार्थ सबके लिऐ जीती हो मां।

तुम जैसा वीशाल हृदय तो नहीं मेरा,
ना तुम जैसी सहनशील हूं मैं
इसीलिए शायद जीवन के हर मोड़ पर
थक कर, हार कर तुम को ही ढूंढती हूं मै मां।

तुम ना होकर भी तुम जैसी हूं मैं मां।
स्वयं को तुम्हारा प्रतिबिंब पाती हूं मैं मां।

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