Lifestyle and health

Keeping the love young and strong

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times — always with the same person.”
Mignon McLaughlin

For most people in the world comes love that is natural, spontaneous and effortless. They fall in love, they explore each other and then they get married. There are also people who get into an arranged marriage; where they get married first and are left to make conscious efforts to love and accept the other person.  Ours was one such marriage, I would often address my then fiancé as “my arranged boyfriend”!

Ours was a typical arranged marriage; but if you looked at our pictures you wouldn’t be able to tell that, that is reel life, in reality we fought, argued, disagreed over everything under the sun and 7 years down the line we still do the same, just that we now know that nothing except death can do us apart.

Few things that we now do to keep the love alive and strong are-

1. No fights to see the morning light

Even before we got married there was one thing that we had mutually decided and promised to each other, it was never to carry on a fight to the next day, never to go to bed upset with each other. This promise was perhaps the most sensible promises ever. It has brought a lot of sanity and calm in our relationship. After bitterest of fights, we hug each other and sleep at night, waking up fresh and in love over again.

2. Rituals –  Rituals bind families, although I am someone who fails to keep up with the rituals  but together we look forward to few things everyday,  like a good morning and goodnight kiss, having him put sindoor on my forehead, closing every phone call with an “i love you”. These things that started implicitly have become part of our daily lives; cheesy as these may sound, they have helped us get close to eachother.

3. Saying “I love you ” – You are never too old to  express your love! We believe in saying “I love you” as often as we can and as often as we feel like saying it, after all it gets you a big smile on your partner’s face.

4. Appreciating eachother-  It has been 7 years of knowing my partner and I continue to  explore new things about him, things that he is good at, qualities that he himself is unaware of. Talking about these and appreciating eachother makes our love grow fonder and our bond stronger

5. Doing silly things together-  At heart he and I are both like 8th graders, the teenagers. We love playing pranks and teasing eachother and we love that. In fact I am the one who starts sulking over his jokes on me and I am also someone who wouldn’t leave an opportunity to pull his leg or crack a silly joke about him; but at the end we love it this way. This keeps us young at heart and in love forever.

What is it that you do to keep that love spark on, let’s talk about it in the comments below.

 

This blog post is a part of a Blog Train that is initiated and hosted by Anchal of themumstory and Jasmeet from Mommyvoyage. Bringing 28 moms together,  who would share their take on Love and Relationships. This is a month long blog train. Hope you enjoy reading it
Next in this train is Manvi from thesimplemumma. Hop on to her website to read her views on this theme.

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times — always with the same person.”
Mignon McLaughlin

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    Dr. Pooja Kapoor

    February 13, 2018

    I also keep teasing and pranking my husband. HaHhahaHa. Although it is sometimes taken as me being very dominating by some people. But i dont care. My husband knows I love him to bits and that is all that matters.

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      Rashmi

      February 17, 2018

      ha ha.. as long as you both enjoy the relationship and the ways of it, nothing else should matter….

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    Sweety

    February 16, 2018

    There a few things in your list that we too religiously follow. We try to have our morning tea together… It gives us a fresh start to the day a few alone moments…. And yes ours was an arranged marriage too..

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      Rashmi

      February 17, 2018

      These are the simplest things that make relationships strong and beautiful.

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    Cheni Adukia

    February 16, 2018

    We too decided to not take the fights to the next day, but sometimes it just happens. And I am the one who does that.

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      Rashmi

      February 17, 2018

      Happens.. I am the one to initiate the fight or an argument but I tend to close it too..

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    Sarah

    February 18, 2018

    Expressing love and gratitude is the most important thing to keep any relationship alive. True that!

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    Sriprithi Somasundaram

    February 20, 2018

    The real life is far true from reel life and the little fights are always part of it. In fact these little fights help us understand each other better. The important point as you mentioned is not to carry it forward…. But as a woman I remember some age old fight happened literally years ago and pick it up all over. Will try to quit that habit 👍☺☺☺

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    Priyanka

    February 23, 2018

    Valid points mentioned here.

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